“You are hearing the words and not the music.” - John Cleese.
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At a lecture, Monty Python co-founder, John Cleese shared an epiphany (my word not his). During marriage counseling (John was married 4 times), he set about arguing the logic of an issue with the counselor.
The counselor’s response, “You are hearing the words and not the music,” stunned John. As an artist, he knew he should hear the music. He is still married.
Having attended 3 weddings in the last 2 months, I have heard a lot of words and (loud) music. I learned these millennials already hear the soft and subtle music it took John Cleese years to hear.
Millennials:
Are prepared - One ceremony concluded with a storm – literally. Immediately after completing vows (“for better”), a massive storm blew in and the temperature dropped 30 degrees (“or worse”). All dashed into a giant tent, lowered the tent flaps, and turned on the propane heater. Everyone danced to the (louder now - due to flaps) music in what will be a favorite family story.
Have a sense of humor - During a ceremony, the pastor noted a one-liner the groom offered during premarital counseling, “Husbands are like fine wine, they start as grapes and the wife stomps the crap out of them until he becomes something acceptable to have dinner with. ”
Respect their elders (somewhat). At a December 31 wedding reception, the band, in homage to the parents, played “Shout” at midnight. The millennials enjoyed watching baby boomers trying to squat (“a little softer now”) and trying to rise back up (“a little bit louder now”).
Note the words from “Shout:”
(Say) say that you love me (Say) say that you need me (Say) say that you want me (Say) you wanna please me (Say) come on now
(Say) come on now
(Say) come on now
There is marriage music in those words.
How about you? When did words become music for you? Do you have a wedding adventure? Share a story.
